tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372499711594046882.post8152322605313974302..comments2022-12-05T01:59:51.484-05:00Comments on Blessings in Disguise: Figured it OutElizabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04427608278914315657noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372499711594046882.post-4274360442363528902012-06-27T09:59:43.751-04:002012-06-27T09:59:43.751-04:00((((hugs)))) I think a lot of bmoms will underst...((((hugs)))) I think a lot of bmoms will understand exactly how you feel. <br /><br />"I struggled so much with the fact that other single women my age raise their children JUST FINE"<br /><br />Quite often the only difference between some of those that raise their children and some of those that relinquish them is that many of those single women who are raising their children "just fine" received as their first line of counselling, counselling that helped them to overcome any obstacles that might prevent them from being able to parent effectively; whereas those that relinquished their children received as their first line of counsellling, counselling that was focused on trying to overcome any resistance a woman might have to adoption ( this latter counselling often includes constantly negating the parenting option and making the emom feel selfish and immature for even considering it). <br /><br />The best you can do now is to be the best bmom for your daughter you can be. You sound like a really lovely lady and hopefully she will always realise how much you love her :)<br /><br />In regards to counselling, if you are receiving counselling through the agency, it might be worth finding an independent counsellor that will let you talk about your feelings openly and without judgment and to help you face the future.jjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11857977207330956060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372499711594046882.post-36336057852392638412012-06-04T09:02:35.400-04:002012-06-04T09:02:35.400-04:00I love Ms Pollywog's answer. Elizabeth, you kn...I love Ms Pollywog's answer. Elizabeth, you know me, my decision, etc. You did something different than me. Which you are a WONDERFUL person for. A is going to grow up and LOVE everything about you! She will know that would you did for her was out of being selfless. Lots of people are not strong like you! You have my number if you want to chat girly! XOCrystal Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07937680767536599864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372499711594046882.post-91335808559467260632012-05-23T08:08:02.506-04:002012-05-23T08:08:02.506-04:00One more thing. I follow a blog that I find to be...One more thing. I follow a blog that I find to be really inspirational. I just read this post this morning and immediately thought of you. You need to read this.<br />http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/05/23/14-rules-for-being-you/Ms. Pollywoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03333603296034804747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372499711594046882.post-71538226712664261282012-05-23T08:00:37.136-04:002012-05-23T08:00:37.136-04:00Here is what I know from reading your blog.
1. Yo...Here is what I know from reading your blog.<br />1. You seem to be a good, kind person with a huge heart.<br />2. You love deeply and believe in forgiveness.<br />3. You are a hard worker who is working towards independence.<br /><br />Those things that I just listed are really important qualities. Those things alone tell me that you have a lot to teach A, a lot for her to be proud of and strive to be. <br /><br />But, here's the other thing.<br />4. You placed your baby for adoption and you are not yet at peace with that decision.<br /><br />I cannot put myself in your shoes. However, if I look at things from A's perspective (in the future), you're someone who she is going to want to seek out, to look to for answers. So, what can you do today and every single day to become that confident woman that she needs in her life. I know adult adoptees who say things like, "My birthmom is amazing." So, what can you do to feel like the amazing woman that you are, so that it shines through and maybe helps you come to peace? She'll need to be proud of you and of her adoption story and you are going to play a key part in how she feels about it all. You deserve that forgiveness that you show to other people. You deserve that light inside you to shine bright for everyone, especially your little girl, to see. When your relationship grows in the future, you'll want to be a woman in her life who shows her what a strong, confident woman she can be. I wonder if you can first do it for her, not for yourself, that you could maybe feel whole again. Ideally, you'd want t do it for yourself, but sometimes we need external motivation. You write with a broken heart and I hope that find a way to work towards mending it. <br /><br />Thinking of you.Ms. Pollywoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03333603296034804747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372499711594046882.post-39126538158848510872012-05-22T13:40:14.183-04:002012-05-22T13:40:14.183-04:00I have felt like this NUMEROUS times. My counselor...I have felt like this NUMEROUS times. My counselor always suggests to look back and remember why you placed. Did you write these reasons down? Why did you choose the couple you chose. I know you are probably an amazing woman. And seeing single moms is hard :/ try and remember the reasons you placed. I hope this helps.Shonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16070761023571513811noreply@blogger.com